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“Bend over and take your whacks,” is heard each day by over l,000 school children in the United States. Almost half of US states permit educators to hit children with contoured boards called “paddles” for breaking school rules. Sometimes children are hit without parent permission and sometimes against parents’ wishes. Paddling can lead to injuries requiring medical treatment including bleeding, bruises and even broken bones. Over l00 countries have banned school corporal punishment.
In Breaking the Paddle: Ending School Corporal Punishment, Nadine Block sheds light on this dark side of American education and refutes arguments used to support its use. Block tells parents how to protect their children from this archaic discipline and gives specific recommendations for how to end it for all US school children. This important book should be read by parents, educators, physicians, mental health professionals, child abuse prevention professionals, school board members, legislators, and all persons who promote the optimum development of children and seek to protect their right to be free from physical harm.
“As the author states on p. 166, ‘Ending corporal punishment of children is part of the social evolutionary process that has seen legal protection from corporal punishment extended to spouses, military personnel, residents of mental institutions, and prisoners.’ How can we do less for our children?”
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This Hurts Me More Than It Hurts You: In Words and Pictures, Children Share How Spanking Hurts and What To Do Instead by Nadine Block, M.Ed., is not another parenting tome by an ivory-towered theorist. This eye-opening book is written and illustrated by those most affected by spanking — children. Their words and drawings show that spanking doesn’t result in the behaviors parents and teachers desire. Instead, it sows seeds of pain, despair, anger, humiliation, confusion, anger — and the continuation of a cycle of violence.
NH boy age 14“…When a child is getting hit, he feels like he is hated and no one loves him. Over time, children start putting up bricks around their heart. …When they get older, they may become a cold and callous person who can’t love. “The children also share what disciplinary tactics are effective. Parents, educators and child-care professionals may be shocked to find that reasoned discussions, loss of privileges, “timeouts,” and the opportunity to atone for misbehaviors work better than spanking.
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Research into parent-child relationships is a diverse field of inquiry, attracting investigators from a variety of disciplines and subdisciplines. This book integrates and synthesizes the literature by focusing on issues concerning the parent. The text is organized around four key questions: What determines parental behavior? What are the effects of parenting on children? What makes some parents more effective than others? Why do some parents maltreat their children? George Holden adopts a dynamic rather than a static perspective on parenting. This dynamic approach reflects parents’ capacity to modify their behavior as they respond to changes in their children and in their own lives. Throughout the text, historical antecedents as well as methodological and theoretical issues are highlighted. Although the book is designed for advanced courses focusing on the parent child relationship, it also rovides a good overview for those interested in current research concerning parenting.
by George W. Holden, Ph.D, available on Amazon.com in hardback, paperback and Kindle.
The Third Edition of George W. Holden’s Parenting: A Dynamic Perspective provides a highly accessible and intellectually rich review of what is currently known about parenting. Written from a psychological perspective but with applications to other disciplines, the text discusses a wide range of contemporary issues such as fertility problems, daycare, marital conflict, divorce, gay parents, and family violence. Additionally, Holden includes studies from developing and non-Western countries, as well as recent statistics on such topics as U.S. and world birthrate, birth problems, adolescent pregnancy, child injury, divorce and remarriage, child maltreatment, and certain social policy issues.
“Dr. Holden’s work is essential for our society’s health.”
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Sixteen-year-old Samuel Braxton walks into the Buckhead High School cafeteria at lunchtime and murders 16 students, wounding 42 others with his grandfather’s M16 assault rifle. Among the dead is Lacy Hathaway, daughter of Sarah Hathaway, a TV news anchorwoman for the Global News Network, which launches Sarah on a passionate journey to discover the real cause of these massacres. She knows gun control is only a very small part of the answer. On a deeper level, she needs to know what is creating this violent criminal behavior in our teenagers.In a surprise and unprecedented move, the District Attorney files charges against Samuel Braxton’s parents, for criminal negligence by allowing Samuel unfettered access to the M16, and as accessories to the murders for subjecting Samuel to corporal punishment as a child. The Braxton trial provides Sarah with the answers to her questions in a totally unexpected way.Follow along in the trial and find out what Sarah discovers that leads her to quit her job and devote her full time and attention to making sure this would happen #NeverAgain.
For Your Own Good, the contemporary classic exploring the serious if not gravely dangerous consequences parental cruelty can bring to bear on children everywhere, is one of the central works by Alice Miller, the celebrated Swiss psychoanalyst. With her typically lucid, strong, and poetic language, Miller investigates the personal stories and case histories of various self-destructive and/or violent individuals to expand on her theories about the long-term effects of abusive child-rearing. Her conclusions - on what sort of parenting can create a drug addict, or a murderer, or a Hitler - offer much insight, and make a good deal of sense, while also straying far from psychoanalytic dogma about human nature, which Miller vehemently rejects. This important study paints a shocking picture of the violent world - indeed, of the ever-more-violent world - that each generation helps to create when traditional upbringing, with its hidden cruelty, is perpetuated. The book also presents listeners with useful solutions in this regard - namely, to re-sensitize the victimized child who has been trapped within the adult, and to unlock the emotional life that has been frozen in repression.
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An examination of the phenomenon of mass shootings in America and an urgent call to implement evidence-based strategies to stop these tragedies.
Using data from the writers’ groundbreaking research on mass shooters, including first-person accounts from the perpetrators themselves, The Violence Project charts new pathways to prevention and innovative ways to stop the social contagion of violence. Frustrated by reactionary policy conversations that never seemed to convert into meaningful action, special investigator and psychologist Jill Peterson and sociologist James Densley built The Violence Project, the first comprehensive database of mass shooters. Their goal was to establish the root causes of mass shootings and figure out how to stop them by examining hundreds of data points in the life histories of more than 170 mass shooters—from their childhood and adolescence to their mental health and motives. They’ve also interviewed the living perpetrators of mass shootings and people who knew them, shooting survivors, victims’ families, first responders, and leading experts to gain a comprehensive firsthand understanding of the real stories behind them, rather than the sensationalized media narratives that too often prevail. For the first time, instead of offering thoughts and prayers for the victims of these crimes, Peterson and Densley share their data-driven solutions for exactly what we must do, at the individual level, in our communities, and as a country, to put an end to these tragedies that have defined our modern era.
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